tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119341514414307085.post295338485475435680..comments2023-10-28T12:10:04.565+01:00Comments on Breaking the Rules: Click ConundrumsRebeccahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08928330882168974318noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119341514414307085.post-79904308445337890172010-01-27T11:55:57.970+00:002010-01-27T11:55:57.970+00:00It's certainly an interesting topic, I guess a...It's certainly an interesting topic, I guess as you say when you don't click with someone in vanilla life or at work it's easy enough just to grit your teeth and get on with it because you have to and there is a lot to gain from it, but becoming vunbrable in front of people you don't click with is deeply difficult. Sometimes you have to try to be nice and I totally agree you can Scarlett De Winterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04292438752897335001noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119341514414307085.post-39357335537465450282010-01-27T11:10:17.672+00:002010-01-27T11:10:17.672+00:00Rebecca, this applies to many vanilla situations, ...Rebecca, this applies to many vanilla situations, such as work.<br />I have led project teams in which one or two individuals were totally incompatible.<br />I learned quite early on to look at an individuals skills rather than their personality.<br />I believe this works well in ordinary life and would in the scene.<br />Warm hugs,<br />Paul.Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03790580459962602757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119341514414307085.post-39133096470869235132010-01-27T09:16:11.320+00:002010-01-27T09:16:11.320+00:00Click is an elusive thing. Why do we like someone?...Click is an elusive thing. Why do we like someone? Often, two people are very different, have nothing in common and yet...and yet...they click. <br /><br />Equally, yes it can be difficult to play a scene with someone you find it hard to get on with. You then have two choices - you can not to the scene at all which seems like rather a waste - or you can focus on something that you like about the Jessicahttp://www.bendoverjessica.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119341514414307085.post-45562259098079995742010-01-26T21:54:31.581+00:002010-01-26T21:54:31.581+00:00I think we put too much pressure on ourselves and ...I think we put too much pressure on ourselves and each other to like our friends and playmates. Like it's a reflection on us if our friend is not liked, if people don't want to play with our playmates.<br /><br />I know I'm guilty of it but it's easier to accept we're all different and interact with each other differently. That clcik or chemistry makes a great friendship and EmmaJanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02724090720166508110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119341514414307085.post-88004056547553292152010-01-26T19:17:25.831+00:002010-01-26T19:17:25.831+00:00Couldn't agree more! The brilliant Little Wom...Couldn't agree more! The brilliant Little Women quote when Amy tells Jo off for going through the world "with your elbows out and your nose in the air and call[ing] it independence" has often rung rueful bells with me, so I can find vanilla group occasions tricky at the best of times. Add kink - and thus vulnerability, and increased stress levels - into the equation, and the catherinenoreply@blogger.com